Relationships are unique is as much as no two are the same and there are times when it is not possible to be with your partner; very often the cause is career based, when your partner is offered that sought-after foreign posting, you both know it’s the best move. Living apart for long periods, however, can put strain on a relationship and with that in mind, here are a few relationship-building tips from certified counsellors.
- Establish a routine – Some couples have several calls a day, even when living together, while other go a couple of days with nothing more than a couple of “I’m OK” text messages; sit down with your partner and decide on the preferred method of communication as well as the frequency. Most couples enjoy a long Zoom call once a week, so they can catch up on the interesting things each has experienced over the week.
- Different time zones – If you and your partner are in different time zones, one of you has to make the sacrifice and it makes sense that the one who is at home is the one to make the change to fit their partner’s time zone.
- Make plans for the future – It is important to talk about the future, when you will be together; this cements your commitment to each other and helps to get through this difficult stage when you are apart for months at a time.
- Get intimate together – Just because you happen to be a few thousand miles apart, doesn’t mean you can’t get it on via a video call. Search for adult sex toys online and surprise your partner! Just make sure you won’t be disturbed and enjoy virtual sex with your soulmate!
- Be honest with each other – It makes total sense to be honest when communicating with the one that we love; if something bothers you, talk to your partner, even if they are not related to the issue. He/she will appreciate that you take their opinions seriously. It takes time to establish trust, which is vital for a healthy relationship and if we can’t be open with our partner, something is wrong.
- Plan virtual dates – If you both have a couple of hours, you can login to your favourite online game and play each other, with communication during the game. Many long-distance couples play each other online, as it brings them together and if you play but your partner does not, perhaps now is the time to bring them in!
- Stay positive – If you’re feeling frustrated by work, or the bills are piling up, try not to make your partner aware of that. The last thing you want is for them to worry, after all, things always work themselves out. If you are chatting and your partner gets emotional, change the subject with something positive.
Always remember that being apart is temporary and it won’t be long until you are together again!